Individual Counseling

Individuals seek counseling for a variety of different problems: depression, anxiety, grief, or low self-esteem. Sometimes you may have questions about a relationship you're not sure what to do with. Or a relationship might have ended, leaving you feeling lost and angry. You may have behaviors you know are bad for you, but you don't know how to change them. Perhaps you have a child or loved one you just don't know how to help. When the people you love are troubled, you feel troubled, too.

One-on-one counseling can help you sort through the confusion to decide what's best for you to do. Individual counseling can help you to develop better self-awareness, and insight into your own feelings, actions and responses. The therapist can assist you in identifying the specific aspects of situations troubling you and then explore changes you can make to help you feel more free and happy.

Coming in and telling your personal problems to a complete stranger might seem really odd, even when the therapist is trained to help with problems like yours. Professionals understand the initial discomfort some clients feel in seeking counseling and attempt to help them feel more at ease.

Therapy is a method of learning. The intention is to help you understand and/or change a style of thinking (cognition), the way you feel (affect), and to modify how you act (behavior). Reaching out is healthy, and important. Healing and growth take place in relationship.

Relationship Counseling

Through psychological education, understanding the six methods of communication, the three kinds of talking and listening and the principles of effective communication couples experience an empathic connection which changes a static relationship into an evolving one.

It is crucial to understand who your partner is to be able to effectively do conflict resolution and understanding the needs of your partner.  By developing the skills of talking and listening to negative feeling without criticizing and defending, The Dialogue of Intimacy, can be used to solve any problem in your relationship.

As a couple we need to understand the Paradoxical Theory of Change.  If you want to change another person you must do three things.
1. Lose interest in changing the other person.
2. Get extremely interested in the other person…listen.
3. Tell the other person about yourself…talk.

This is difficult to do without being thought how to do it.  It is indirect and it works.  I firmly believe we do not marry the wrong person we divorce for the wrong reasons

Child and Adolescent Counseling

Children need a place to process all that is going on in their family and their life. Giving your child a safe, therapeutic place to make sense of their experience, with a professional who specializes in play therapy, is a gift that will continue on for your child's lifetime. Children who are able to process their experience increase their opportunities to create healthy, lasting connections in the present and the future. Processing transition is greatly beneficial for children, as well as their parents.

For children, adolescence, and  teens, we specialize in addressing behavioral problems/defiance, parents' divorce, depression, suicidal thoughts, ADHD, bullying, self-esteem issues, anxiety, trauma, and educating or supporting parents. It can be hard if your child is shutting you out, but you know something is wrong with them. You're not alone; many parents struggle to know what to say or do to help their child.

Sex Therapy

Sex issues is the application of skills to deal with the problems of sexual function of people. It uses the concept that sexuality is of legitimate concern and focus their specialized skills to help individuals and/or couples to deal with their sexual concerns.

Out of the increased knowledge of the physiology and psychology of human sexual behavior I began to realize how uninformed many people really are about their sexuality and sex.  The importance of sexual function for individuals varies, of course, but for many it is closely tied in with their total concept of self-identity. For these, problems in sexual function may lead to devaluation of self - "When I cannot feel good about my sexuality, how can I feel good about myself?" We are also in a time when marital and family units seem to be quite vulnerable. Concepts of these traditional relationships are being reevaluated, challenged and restructured. Alternatives to marriage are now being more openly tried and are becoming more widely accepted than at any other time in our history. Regardless of the structure of the intimate relationship shared, sexuality serves a valuable function for most couples. It becomes an expression of caring, not only for the partner, but for oneself. It can become a powerful bonding element in a relationship, which, in today's society, must withstand considerable demands on time, energy and commitment. Dissatisfaction with the sexual relationship and the loss of that shared intimacy, in many instances, may lead to negative feelings and attitudes which are destructive to the relationship. Many marriages end therefore, because of unresolved sexual differences and difficulties

Counseling for sex issues employs many of the same basic principles as the other therapeutic modalities, but is unique in that it is an approach developed specifically for the treatment of sexual problems. That is, counseling for sex issues is a specialized form of treatment used with one aspect of the wide range of human problems.

Common Problems:
Affairs
Impact of extra-marital sexual behavior party for both the husband and wife.

Aging, disease and disability
Normal changes associated with aging are often disturbing as well as changes in sexual mood and desire associated with illness and ability.

Desire differences
Common too many couples, is where one partner wants sex more frequently than the other, resulting in conflict.

Erection problems
The difficulty a man experiences in gaining or keeping an erection

Painful intercourse
Can be caused by a variety of physical, hormonal, emotional or physiological problems.

Pre-Orgasmic
The difficulty a woman experiences in having an orgasm.

Retarded Ejaculation
The difficulty a man experiences in reaching orgasm.

Rapid Ejaculation
The difficulty a man experiences in reaching orgasm to fast.

Sexual anxiety
Discomfort and inhibition

Sexual abuse
Non-consensual sexual contact

Vaginismus
The tightening of the vaginal muscles resulting in painful or sometimes impossible intercourse

Pornography

One-on-one counseling can help you sort through the confusion to decide what's best for you to do. Individual counseling can help you to develop better self-awareness, and insight into your own feelings, actions and responses. The therapist can assist you in identifying the specific aspects of situations troubling you and then explore changes you can make to help you feel more free and happy.

Coming in and telling your personal problems to a complete stranger might seem really odd, even when the therapist is trained to help with problems like yours. Professionals understand the initial discomfort some clients feel in seeking counseling and attempt to help them feel more at ease.

Therapy is a method of learning. The intention is to help you understand and/or change a style of thinking (cognition), the way you feel (affect), and to modify how you act (behavior). Reaching out is healthy, and important. Healing and growth take place in relationship.